Long Distance Relationship , First Goodbye, Positive Vibes
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Long Distance Relationship: First Goodbye


Long Distance Relationship , First Goodbye, Positive Vibes

So as you may know, I recently transitioned into a Long Distance Relationship (or LDR, as I will call it for the rest of this post).

I was lucky enough to spend two weeks with my boyfriend before the dreaded first goodbye. Even though it was so nice to spend time with him, the feeling of despair as the time went on, was evident every time we got lost in our own thoughts.

It’s normal to feel sad and lost if you know you’re going to have to say goodbye to one of the most important people in your life. Just know that you are not alone in this struggle. There are many people going through the same thing. I want to open the conversation and create a space where we can all support one another on this journey.

I want to talk about a few topics that may cross your mind when the heart-breaking day approaches.


Staying positive

Long Distance Relationship , First Goodbye, Positive VibesThere is always a light at the end of the tunnel. Even if it feels like you are going to be apart forever, you should still try staying positive and appreciate the time you still have together.

Every time I started moping about the time going by too fast, my boyfriend would tell me to cheer up. We would go do something fun together to get our minds off the negative train.

Yes, the last day we had together may have ended in tears, but I will treasure the week I had with him forever. That’s what makes thinking of the memories and looking at the photos such a great way to stay positive. It makes me look forward to seeing him again.

It also reminds me why we are doing this. The wait will be worth it in the end.

Promises

When making promises about how much time you will Skype or talk on the phone each day or week, try to be realistic. If both of you are in college, it can get pretty hectic at times.

I promised my boyfriend that we would Skype if we had the time and we would check up on each other throughout the day. Sometimes we text in between classes or late at night before we go to bed. We’ve Skyped a few times and it really helps to hear his voice and talk to him like we are in the same room.

Getting used to it

Long Distance Relationship , First Goodbye, Positive Vibes

To be honest, I’m still not used to it. It’s only been about a month, but I had hoped to cope a little better by now. I guess with all the university stress and our busy schedules, it felt like we barely had time to talk. I hope that we will get used to the workload and have more quality time talking.

Only time will help with this matter. It will become part of our routines and we will know what works best for keeping in touch.

Just don’t give up because it’s tough!

Staying up to date

It’s important to know what’s going on in the other person’s life so you can support them across the distance.

We are going to try out two apps designed for LDR couples. These apps will allow us to update the other person on our schedule and sending photos and messages.

As soon as they have been tried and tested, I’ll write a review post.

Of course, Skype and WhatsApp are good ways of keeping up as well. As I mentioned above, you need to figure out what works for you.

Planning visits

Another way to keep you from feeling like you will never see them again is to decide when and how you will visit each other.

My boyfriend and I will be taking turns in flying in to see each other during our college breaks. We will be saving like crazy to be able to afford it, but we are both equally committed to the relationship and keeping it going despite the distance.

One day we will be together for good!

Long Distance Relationship , First Goodbye, Positive Vibes


If you have any other questions or concerns, you can read my ‘9 Ways to Prepare for a Long Distance Relationship’ post.

I wish you all the best with your relationship and this journey.

Let me know in the comments about your relationship and how you make it work.

 

Marni xox

5 thoughts on “Long Distance Relationship: First Goodbye”

  1. I was in a LDR for over two years, still am actually except distance has shrunk considerably yay! What you say here is good advice. It’s still pretty new for you so I think it took us about 3 months to get used to things. After yr it feels more normal than anything, it’s just how the relationship is. Good luck in yours I think you’ll do just fine 😁✌️

    1. It will take time to get used to it, but I’m planning on making it work. Thank you for sharing your story! It makes me very optimistic that things will go better😊

  2. Hey, great post. I did LDR for 2 years, incredibly difficult, emotional and draining but the end result is worth it. Keep going, the end will come. If you keep busy, it won’t seem as though it’s dragging, and plan your next visit as soon as you can as it gives you something to work towards! We used to book our flights as soon as we got our timetable through and straight after a visit so that we knew the countdown began right away rather than being in limbo. 6 years on, we’re living together stronger than ever x

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