So as you may know, I recently transitioned into a Long Distance Relationship (or LDR, as I will call it for the rest of this post).
I was lucky enough to spend two weeks with my boyfriend before the dreaded first goodbye. Even though it was so nice to spend time with him, the feeling of despair as the time went on, was evident every time we got lost in our own thoughts.
It’s normal to feel sad and lost if you know you’re going to have to say goodbye to one of the most important people in your life. Just know that you are not alone in this struggle. There are many people going through the same thing. I want to open the conversation and create a space where we can all support one another on this journey.
I want to talk about a few topics that may cross your mind when the heart-breaking day approaches.
There is always a light at the end of the tunnel. Even if it feels like you are going to be apart forever, you should still try staying positive and appreciate the time you still have together.
Every time I started moping about the time going by too fast, my boyfriend would tell me to cheer up. We would go do something fun together to get our minds off the negative train.
Yes, the last day we had together may have ended in tears, but I will treasure the week I had with him forever. That’s what makes thinking of the memories and looking at the photos such a great way to stay positive. It makes me look forward to seeing him again.
It also reminds me why we are doing this. The wait will be worth it in the end.
When making promises about how much time you will Skype or talk on the phone each day or week, try to be realistic. If both of you are in college, it can get pretty hectic at times.
I promised my boyfriend that we would Skype if we had the time and we would check up on each other throughout the day. Sometimes we text in between classes or late at night before we go to bed. We’ve Skyped a few times and it really helps to hear his voice and talk to him like we are in the same room.
Getting used to it
To be honest, I’m still not used to it. It’s only been about a month, but I had hoped to cope a little better by now. I guess with all the university stress and our busy schedules, it felt like we barely had time to talk. I hope that we will get used to the workload and have more quality time talking.
Only time will help with this matter. It will become part of our routines and we will know what works best for keeping in touch.
Just don’t give up because it’s tough!
Staying up to date
It’s important to know what’s going on in the other person’s life so you can support them across the distance.
We are going to try out two apps designed for LDR couples. These apps will allow us to update the other person on our schedule and sending photos and messages.
As soon as they have been tried and tested, I’ll write a review post.
Of course, Skype and WhatsApp are good ways of keeping up as well. As I mentioned above, you need to figure out what works for you.
Another way to keep you from feeling like you will never see them again is to decide when and how you will visit each other.
My boyfriend and I will be taking turns in flying in to see each other during our college breaks. We will be saving like crazy to be able to afford it, but we are both equally committed to the relationship and keeping it going despite the distance.
One day we will be together for good!
If you have any other questions or concerns, you can read my ‘9 Ways to Prepare for a Long Distance Relationship’ post.
I wish you all the best with your relationship and this journey.
Let me know in the comments about your relationship and how you make it work.